Emotional Contagion Goes To Church
Rev. Mark E. Tidsworth, Founder and Team Leader
Dear E-News Readers,
Even though I shared a version of this article in the past, managing ourselves and providing effective leadership in the emotional morass of this week are pushing me to update, and share again. I hope it contributes to your differentiation, your centering in Christ, as you lead in these emotionally contagious times.
Emotions are not our faith. Our faith is our faith. Yet, emotions are powerful forces in faith communities, especially in one whose primary metaphor is Body. We are at our best when we are one body, the Body of Christ, the manifestation of Christ’s presence in flesh and blood no less. We didn’t invent this audacious and bold identity for ourselves. Christ himself called us into being, naming us Body of Christ. God’s work of salvation through Christ gave birth to this body, gathering us around the inspiring and challenging Way of Jesus. This is our faith story, initiated by Christ and empowered by the Holy Spirit. So when it comes to emotions, we are not surprised that such an intimate expression of community shares moods and emotional states. Though we are often the church scattered rather than gathered, we retain this remarkable ability to influence the emotional lives of one another.
Though God’s Church has experienced the sharing of emotional states for centuries, contemporary social science, informed by brain research into mirror neurons, recognizes the power of emotional contagion. “The more cohesive the group, the stronger the sharing of moods, emotional history, and even hot buttons.” 1 So the closer our sense of fellowship and community as churches, the more likely we are to share and influence the emotional states of one another. This is not a judgment, an evaluation assigning positive or negative values. This is simply a description of the way we function in the Body of Christ. Our experience, plus research from various fields, tell us that we powerfully influence each other simply by being a strong group; by being church together.
The pastoral and lay leaders among us intuitively know their emotional responses during times of crisis are super-sized, exceptionally influential. “In such a grave crisis, all eyes turn to the leader for emotional guidance. Because the leader’s way of seeing things has special weight, leaders manage meaning for a group, offering a way to interpret or make sense of, and so react emotionally to, a given situation.”2 Clearly, leadership matters; especially in this intricately interconnected Body of Christ.
Can you sense the emotional buzz this week, one week out from this contentious presidential election? The candidates are ramping up the rhetoric, outrageous rumors are flying, and a low level tension is there, running through every relationship and interaction.
This is when we need leaders who are firmly centered in Christ, deeply rooted in story of God, regularly energized by the Holy Spirit. This is when we need pastoral and lay leaders to step into their roles, constructing frames through which we can interpret reality, walking with us in the present with an eye toward God’s future.
So how in the world can human beings be these kinds of leaders?
Perhaps now is the time to stop, step back, and breathe deeply. Perhaps now is the time for pastoral and lay leaders to step off the front lines for a moment and look to ourselves. No, stepping back is not only about self-preservation during an ongoing and unfolding crisis. Stepping back and reconnecting with the One who can reset our emotional barometers is a responsible spiritual discipline given leaders directly influence the emotional states of our churches. “Because emotions are so contagious – especially from leaders to others in the group – leaders’ first tasks are the emotional equivalent of good hygiene: getting their own emotions in hand. Quite simply, leaders cannot effectively manage emotions in anyone else without first handling their own. How a leader feels thus becomes more than just a private matter; given the reality of emotional leakage, a leader’s emotions have public consequences.”3 Once we know this, the powerful influence of leadership regarding emotional contagion, we cannot un-know it. We must use this knowledge about how we humans function for the good of God’s Church.
So pastoral and lay leaders, get yourself to a good place.
Look to our Lord. Step back, breathe, look upwards, settle. Invite God’s full presence into every part of your being. Cast your anxiety and care on God for God cares for you. Ask the Holy Spirit to fill you, pushing away the toxicity and fear, replacing them with health and peace. Trust God to do this, for God is able and faithful. In fact, this is the very time for which God has been preparing you. God has and shall give you everything you need for the living of these days, for the doing of God’s will.
Then let’s use our understanding of emotional contagion to spread a really good virus among our people. Perhaps the medicine needed is the Trinity Treatment of faith, hope, and love. Since emotional contagion is a natural part of church-life, let’s channel it toward helping us be our best expressions of church yet. With God’s help, let’s spread a really good virus everywhere we can.
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1. “Moods And Emotions In Small Groups And Work Teams,” Janice R. Kelly and Sigal Barsade, Working paper, Yale School of Management, New Haven, CT, 2001.
2. Primal Leadership: Realizing the Power of Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman, Richard Boyatzis, Annie McKee (Harvard Business School Publishing, Boston, MA), 2002. Preface.
3. Ibid. p.46.