Strong Leaders Are Still Human

by Marci Wilson-Boggs, Communication Specialist, Pinnacle

Recently I was having coffee with a friend from seminary, and I told her the last year has been a deep struggle for me, as I know it has been for many others during these transformational times we are living through, in both secular and sacred environments.

My friend seemed genuinely surprised, and replied, “You always came across as such a strong person. I never would have imagined that you would struggle with anything.” As I drove home, those words had an impact, because I realized leaders often do a good job displaying competence, composure and calm; but underneath the armor, pain, struggle, frustration and even grief can simmer, especially during holidays and busy church seasons.

As many of us are both church leaders and members, I was reminded we need to acknowledge our humanity during this season and refrain from making assumptions that someone is “fine,” just because they choose to convey strength and assurance when it is necessary. Even those perceived to be the most strong or stable in our midst may be feeling depression, or difficulty they don’t feel comfortable sharing with everyone. Strong leaders are allowed to feel depression, sadness, and grief. We are strong for so many. I hope this season may grant permission to shed some tears or release some pain if needed.

In his insightful book, Don't Let Go Before Dawn: Finding the Blessing in Your Struggle, author and Pinnacle Associate Ronald “Dee” Vaughan states, “Depression sufferers struggle to connect their illness to their faith. I believe many Christians dealing with depression are longing for a faith perspective from which they can begin to understand their illness and begin to see their path forward.” (I highly recommend this book.)

Whether we get a mild case of the blues, a little burnout or full-blown depression, help is available if needed. Pinnacle offers consulting, one on one or group coaching, as well as a course (Navigating GriefLand) for managing uncertain and transitional times.

Thank you, church leaders, for your strength in leading your congregation. I pray you are able to enjoy a season of rest, release and relaxation after this busy holiday season.